#parenting #諮商師職業病 [ Rethinking about parenting: waiting vs. efficiency ] (English version is below the Chinese one.)
社會告訴我們要快要有效率， 工作教導我們要有SOP控制好所有事情， 我們學會了。
但，小孩的需要完全不同； 親職教養需要耐心、時間、等待及接受不確定性。 從翻身、爬行、走路......，孩子需要時間才能逐漸成長，需要重複練習才能確實學會。
這是為什麼我覺得育兒不容易卻又很可貴： 孩子迫使我們慢下來， 翻轉我們長大成人中所學的效率行事法， 讓我們回歸於「人」， 有機會好好檢視自己、面對過去、挑戰未來的改變， 並花時間好好地陪伴家人。
Society told us to move fast and be efficient. Our work taught us to have SOPs to control everything. We learned. However, children’s needs are totally different. Parenting needs patience, time, waiting, and acceptance of uncertainty. From rolling over, crawling, walking, and so on, kids need time to gradually grow up and practice repeatedly to learn thoroughly.
This is why I think parenting is not easy but valuable. Children made parents slow down and focus on people instead of efficiency. Kids give us a chance to rethink about ourselves, face our past, and challenge us to change in the future. Also, they push us to spend more time to be with our family.
本文在粉專上發表於2022/05/18
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